Mother's Day

"Making a decision to have a child-it's momentous.

It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around

outside your body."

~Elizabeth Stone

Elizabeth Stone's quote was found on Susan's blog this morning.

Today, I want to say an even bigger "thank you" to my own children, for they have made me grow, stretch, be aware of my glaring and not so evident faults, and have taught me gratitude and a modicum of forbearance.  Thank you for being my children, Julie and Heidy.

“It is not until you become a mother that your judgment slowly turns to compassion and understanding.”

 Erma Bombeck

Mother's Day is the Big Day to say "thank you" to the mothers of the world. But there are others who also lay blame when "things go wrong" with children...

Thoughts on Mother's Day from The Citizen:

While fathers, teachers, religious leaders, and numerous other elders in the society deserve acknowledgment for their roles in the nurturing of children, it is a mother’s role that is extraordinary. Mothers are naturally the primary caregivers for young children.

It is a mother who teaches how to nurture and how to love. It is through her guidance that we as individuals learn how to be empathetic and sympathetic to those around us.Today mothers have lots of routine work, and responsibilities. They are normally always busy fulfilling their children’s needs, in such a way that they forget to care for their own.

However, there is a tendency to put blame on mothers when things go wrong with children. This isn’t a new aspect. Everyday we hear how mothers are to blame when children fail to live up to our expectations.

Mothers blamed
Mothers are blamed for children’s poor school performance, teenage-pregnancy, low self-esteem, and all the bad things happening to them.Besides, most children’s problems are often linked to the social and marital status of their mothers, especially when they are unmarried, divorced or widowed.  

It is a fact that our society assumes that a mother without a husband is a bad influence to her children. Nobody ever thinks that there could be another person to blame – and that is the absent father.

Child experts say a father is an essential ingredient to a well-developed and successful family. When a father is removed from the home due to divorce or death, it leaves the majority of the parenting if not all of the parenting to the single mother.

The thing that is really lacking most, however, is the discipline that the father imposes. When the father is missing from the picture, the children are at risk of getting away with more poor behaviour.

The father and mother are a team that makes the entire family structure work if they are supportive of each other. But still, with or without men, mothers strive to survive the situation. 

A lot of mothers carry the burden alone and put up with good and bad times. As the world celebrates Mother’s Day, it is time we looked at the bigger picture. Without mothers, where would we be as a society? .
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